Logically, if I make you happy, if you love me and don’t wanna lose me, why bother others? I want a partner who can say no to pretty girls and proudly say “I’m with her”, if you can’t get to that level I don’t wanna waste my time and energy anymore. I tried everything. I stayed no matter what. Now I'm done.
This time 3am in the morning I found out that apparently, you are a narcissist.
Seriously, you need some help.
Some articles about them:
A true narcissist is someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). It’s a mental health condition characterized by:
- an inflated sense of importance
- a deep need for excessive attention and admiration
- lack of empathy for others
- often having troubled relationships
What it boils down to, says licensed therapist Rebecca Weiler, LMHC, is selfishness at the (usually extreme) expense of others, plus the inability to consider others’ feelings at all.
11 signs of Narcissist Partner:
1. They were charming AF… at first
2. They hog the conversation, talking about how great they are
3. They feed off your compliments
4. They lack empathy
5. They don’t have any (or many) long-term friends
6. They pick on you constantly
7. They gaslight you
8. They dance around defining the relationship
If your partner is exhibiting some of the other symptoms on this list and won’t commit, it’s likely a red flag.
Some narcissists will expect you to treat them like they’re your partner so they can reap the intimate, emotional, and sexual benefits while also keeping an eye out for prospects who they deem superior.
In fact, you may notice that your partner flirts with or looks at others in front of you, your family, or your friends.
9. They think they’re right about everything… and never apologize
10. They panic when you try to break up with them
11. … and when you show them you’re really done, they lash out
(source: Healthline: Am I Dating A Narcissist )*
*Better to read the entire article. So detail.
Narcissistic Pattern of Abuse:
1. Groom
Also known as love bomb or hoover. Compliments, acts of service, feigning things in common, apparent kindness, apologies, promises to change, hypervigilant "positive" attention.
In this phase, the victim thinks this is the true man she knows. His sense of she is under his control fuels his supply.
2. Devalue
Undermining the victim's strengths. The victim is confused because her supposed "partner" is acting like her enemy.
Often the abuser seeks additional supply from pornography, affair partners, flying monkeys, etc. They may also engage in addictive behaviors such as gaming, gambling, alcohol, drugs, sports, etc., which amount to abusive entitlements.
3. Discard
Emotional and physical abandonment, abusive sexual consumption of women, including porn use or infidelity. These abusive acts are often blamed on the victim.
In these phase the victim's pain fuels abuser's supply.
(source: Betrayal Trauma Recovery)
5 Common Gaslighting Tactics:
1. Gaslighters lie about things you know to be true.
2. They accuse you of the negative behaviors they engage in themselves.
3. They call you crazy, emotionally unbalanced, overthinking, or too sensitive.
4. They undermine you in subtle ways.
5. When you confront gaslighters about their behavior, they often deflect and distract.
(source: Psychology Today)
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